Liberty Mills: 360 Fertility, Women’s Health, and Becoming a Mother Again at 45.
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When it comes to rewriting the rules of fertility, few voices resonate like Liberty Mills, bestselling author of 360 Fertility, a health and fertility coach, and devoted mother of two. Diagnosed with lupus at 30 and told she had less than a 1% chance of conceiving at 43, Liberty not only defied medical odds but transformed her healing journey into a global movement empowering women to take control of their reproductive health.
Her book 360 Fertility has become a go-to resource for women seeking a holistic approach to fertility, one that honors the connection between body, mind, and spirit. Blending modern medicine and ancient wisdom, Liberty’s work encourages women, men, and couples to look beyond supplements alone, emphasizing emotional, mental, and energetic alignment for natural conception.
In this deeply personal conversation, Liberty opens up about early motherhood, overcoming isolation as a single parent, facing ageism as an older mother, and overcoming infertility later in life. With warmth and candor, she shares how she rebuilt her life — from lupus recovery to bestselling author — while creating space for women everywhere to heal, thrive, and live fully in their bodies.
Her story isn’t just about fertility; it’s about resilience, freedom, and the radical act of living fully in your body. Through her journey, Liberty shows how embracing your strength, trusting your body, and making intentional choices can transform not just your health, but your whole life.
By Alice Codford
ON MOTHERHOOD
Can you tell us a bit about your path to motherhood? What surprised you most about that transformation?
Liberty Mills: I became pregnant for the first time at 22 years old, so I’ve been a mother longer in my 51 years than I’ve not been one. What surprised me most was this automatic shift of putting myself second and the child first. That unconditional love I felt for both of my children began from that very first positive pregnancy test. I had never held a baby before I held my first daughter.
How did becoming a mother change your relationship with your body, your work, or your sense of purpose?
Liberty Mills: The first time around, my relationship with my body didn’t change much because I was so young. I “bounced back” quickly, from a size 10 to a size 8 within two days, and I was back to lingerie modeling within two weeks.
The second time, at 45, it took me 18 months to bounce back and a lot of hard work. But both times, I was immensely in awe of what my body could do. That it could grow and feed a child. I felt stronger, more resilient, even with lack of sleep. I was always a huge sleeper, but somehow I didn’t just function I thrived because I wanted to give my children my best. I was very proud of my stretch marks at 23 on my bum as they were a marks of what my body had to do to carry a healthy human.
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What has been one of the most difficult points of motherhood for you? Were you able to overcome it, and if so, how did you navigate through that challenging time?
Liberty Mills: I’ve had many difficult moments as a mother, especially being a single mum. When my firstborn was two, I was lucky to have the support of my modeling career, clients who let me bring her on trips, and friends who, though not parents themselves, rallied around me.
Still, I had no family in the country, and that isolation was painful. Many times, I cried in the shower or into my pillow so she couldn’t hear. It truly took a village to raise her. Also when she turn into a teen and as teens do distanced herself from me, I felt alone as we had done everything together.
One of the hardest parts was facing the prejudice of having a child later in life. Trolls, societal judgment, and my own fears sometimes crept in, fears that when my daughter is my age, I might already be in a care home. That thought brings pain, but I channel that energy into purpose.
I built a career that allows me to be my own boss, take time off, do school pickups, and spend Fridays with my grandchildren. Now, as an older mother, my choices — how I live, eat, train, and invest aren’t driven by fear or appearances, but by the desire to create freedom and security for my children. If I am strong and healthy they have more mental freedom and are able to live their own life.
If you could speak to your younger self, or to a mother just beginning her journey, what words of wisdom or encouragement would you share?
Liberty Mills: If I could speak to my younger self — this actually made me cry writing it — I’d say: No one’s perfect. You don’t have to prove you are, no matter your age. Your children already think you’re perfect. It’s not the holidays, gifts, or fancy things that matter — it’s the little moments: making popcorn necklaces or singing out of tune in the car that tehy hang on to.
Don’t pressure your kids to excel at school. As long as they can read and make their way in the world, that’s enough. Help them find what makes them happy, not what makes you happy.
And never think you can’t do something because you’re a mum — you’re still you.
How do you balance nurturing others, clients, children, and community, with nurturing yourself?
Liberty Mills: I go to the gym at least three times a week — it’s my mental health space. After recovering from lupus, being strong physically helps keep me strong mentally.
I indulge in monthly facials, I love a facial, i feel if i look in the mirror and I look fresh, I feel fresh. I try to take Fridays off, go for walks in the hills, and have bi-weekly Zooms with my best friend in America. Time with my girlfriends, laughing, dancing in the kitchen is essential. And I guard my sleep, if it’s Wednesday or Saturday or New years Eve I’m in bed by 10pm.
ON HEALTH & 360 FERTILITY
Being diagnosed with Lupus at 30 must have been a life-altering moment. What was going through your mind in those early days?
Liberty Mills: When I was diagnosed with lupus, I initially thought it was punishment, I’d been raised Catholic and went to a very strict Convent school. I felt I must have done something wrong.
What did your path to remission teach you about resilience, surrender, or the healing power of love?
Liberty Mills: My love for my daughter became my catalyst to heal. I refused to take “no” for an answer, because the, “ok this is it”, left her an orphan. Asking for help was transformative. Before that, I couldn’t even remember the last time I’d asked anyone for help. I don’t believe in a single cure. Ancient wisdom and modern medicine both have their place. Together, they didn’t save me, but reset me.
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360 Fertility, £16.99, Shop the book here.At 43, you were told you had only a 0.7% chance of conceiving, and yet, you did. How did you keep faith when science said it wasn’t possible?
Liberty Mills: I had changed things round once, I had proven it to myself and the medics. I also practiced Nichiren Buddhism daily, chanting with my partner every morning and evening. Daisaku Ikeda’s words — “make the impossible possible” — became my mantra.
What role did practices like Ayurveda, acupuncture, and integrative medicine play in your fertility journey?
Liberty Mills: I sought support beyond the NHS, Ayurvedic food was my base, I stopped being a vegetarian though and started eating organic chicken and having daily bone broth, had weekly acupuncture, and pushed for better thyroid investigation and support. I detoxed my life, replacing plastic with glass, and reduced toxins everywhere I could.
What inspired you to write your bestselling book, 360 Fertility?
Liberty Mills: It was my clients initially who inspired me to write my book. They’d say, “You’ve changed my life!”, even the ones who had not conceived. And they said that I must get my work into people’s hands. Plus the second podcast that I was a guest on went viral, one clip reached 4 million views in a weekend and note stands at 10.4 million views. Then after that first weekend I woke up to thousands on DMs on social media and 168 email inquires and I thought how can i support all of these people.
Fertility is often discussed in purely medical terms, but what does it mean to take a 360-degree approach?
Liberty Mills: I knew that there were many fertility books out there, but few take a full 360-degree approach mind, body, emotional health, and relationships. And none really spoke to the men. You can take all the supplements in the world, but if you’re highly stressed, disconnected, or not in tune with your body, they’ll do little and no one was really talking about this.
I wanted to write something nurturing, educational, and inclusive, something that speaks equally to men and women and single women, a book for modern people living in an unprecedented time.
What do you wish women understood earlier about their fertility and reproductive health?
Liberty Mills: I wish women weren’t dismissed by their doctors. Painful or irregular periods aren’t normal, they should be investigated early, not ignored until your 40s. We must honour our reproductive health and stop using birth control just to “skip” our natural cycles. Women deserve to understand their bodies, not be gaslighted into silence.
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When life feels chaotic or self-doubt creeps in, how do you stay grounded? Are there any non-negotiables or rituals that help you maintain balance?
Liberty Mills: I write every morning my Morning Pages and that helps me iron out those niggling thoughts that creep in. Self-doubt still creeps in still later in the day at times, but I have reminders by my desk, quotes from people who believed in me glued onto an exercise book.
One is from my first year high school English teacher, Mrs. Berry: “You are different. You have a talent. You should be published. You are special not just as a person, but as a writer”
Another is from acting coach Susan Batson (Nicole Kidman's coach): “You are fearless. Don’t dumb yourself down, the industry needs you, you should write.”
Those words remind me that others often see the light in us long before we do. I’ve written morning pages ever since doing The Artist’s Way , by Juila Cameron — it’s non-negotiable.
ON BEAUTY, STYLE & SELF-CARE
Has your personal style changed since becoming a mum? If so, how has it influenced the way you dress?
Liberty Mills: Ironically, my style hasn’t changed much. I wore a sweater yesterday I’ve had for 26 years. I still love flares, brown belts, and cream blouses, timeless pieces. In the summer it's maxi skits and maxi dresses and gold flats. The only change i have made is since moving to the countryside is swapping heels for cowboy boots and trainers. Being a mum or even a “glam-ma” ( aka Grannie) hasn’t and won’t change my style. Even my make up is the same, lots of mascara lots of blush and a little lip gloss.
What’s your go-to outfit when you want to feel both comfortable and confident?
Liberty Mills: Anything long and cream, I like silks, wool and cotton, natural fibres. I think if anyone sees me I'm often in flares and a silk blouse.
What does your beauty or self-care routine look like, and has it changed since becoming a mother?
Liberty Mills: Hahaha, my bathroom is like a spa! My beauty routine has evolved with age, not motherhood. I now use LED masks three times a week, exfoliate gently every morning, and have monthly facials. I remove my makeup when my six-year-old brushes her teeth — around 7 p.m. — so I don’t skip it later. Lots of oils and castor oil, just a drop in my serum every other night. My skin care is a big thing after reversing my lupus butterfly rash.
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LOOKING AHEAD
Has your definition of success evolved since becoming a mother?
Liberty Mills: My definition of success changed when my eldest was five — success meant giving her a safe, stable home and being someone she could come to. Now, success means showing my children that degrees and titles aren’t everything. I’m severely dyslexic, yet I’ve written books, started businesses, and built a life on my own terms. I want my legacy to show that fear should never hold you back. I published my first book at 50, launched a business during lockdown, and now speak on panels with professors. If no one invites you to their table, build your own, and soon they’ll want to join you.
What legacy do you hope to leave for your children, your readers, and the women you serve?
Liberty Mills: We have all the answers, sometimes we just need someone or a bunch of someones to ask the right questions. You don’t know if you don’t ask. I want people to know the difference between living and surviving, I have been in both camps and I don't want anyone to survive or exist, only to live and thrive.
And finally, what message would you like to leave with the Luminary Mothers community, especially for mothers navigating their own journeys of fertility, healing, or renewal?
Liberty Mills: Know where you want to go — but don’t set your destination too small. Celebrate your wins, big and small. Don’t label experiences as “good” or “bad” — they just are.
If you’re healing or struggling, ask: “What is my body trying to tell me?” Listen. It will serve you well. For years I lived in and for society, not in my own body. Now I live in my body and create my own society.
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